There is only one way to do marriage right: the way God says to do marriage!

God made marriage His last creation at the Garden of Eden: “The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18).

“Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the wild animals and all the birds in the sky. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds in the sky and all the wild animals. But for Adam no suitable helper was found.” (Genesis 2:19-20).

“So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh.22 Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”(Genesis 2:21-22).

“The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for she was taken out of man.”” (Genesis 2:23). “That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” (Genesis 2:24). Adam and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame.” (Genesis 2:25).

There is no legal definition of marriage in any language anywhere in the world that does justice to this thing called marriage; because human beings do not understand what marriage is and what it is supposed to achieve and how it works. To us, marriage simply means two people coming together mutually agreeing to share their lives together and explore things jointly for their common good.

That is not what God created marriage to be. Marriage is a creation of God; in the same sense as the creation of the earth and the universe; and the creation of man and all living things. God created marriage after He created Eve. He took Eve to Adam and joined them in holy matrimony; thereby fulfilling His objective:“I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18).And that was the first matrimonial ceremony on earth.

What does ‘helper suitable for him’ mean if not someone who will become one with Adam to give God ‘godly offspring’ (Malachi 2:15); and at the same time keep Adam from the sins of passion and desires of the flesh? The person suitable for Adam is going to be a helper to Adam, but more importantly,Adam’s relationship with that person must not cause Adam to stray from God.

This ‘helper’ must be primed for Adam’s salvation because God knew that Adam would fall into sin and would need to be redeemed. That is why there was darkness on the face of the earth at Genesis 1:2—darkness of heart which would eventually descend on the earth, brought about by Satan. No other helper would have been suitable for Adam apart from the woman, Eve, because God would not have it any other way. God had put a plan together to at some point in the future rescue man, and the only way that plan could work was to give Adam ‘a suitable helper’ who will help him succeed and find God again and receive His grace.

And what is that plan of God to keep Adam from falling more into sin, but instead to seek God and His forgiveness and mercy? Here is the passage from the Bible: 

“Another thing you do: You flood the LORD’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been unfaithful to her, though she is your partner, the wife of your marriage covenant.” (Malachi2:13-14).

“Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.”(Malachi 2:15).

“‘The man who hates and divorces his wife,’ says the LORD, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the LORD Almighty.” So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.”(Malachi 2:16).

“You have wearied the LORD with your words. “How have we wearied him?” you ask.

By saying, “All who do evil are good in the eyes of the LORD, and he is pleased with them” or “Where is the God of justice?”” (Malachi 2:17).